Passive behavior

A passive person isn't understood as a "vegetable" without opinions or character, but rather someone distinguished by a set of internal behaviors and stances that lead them to endure others while feeling discomfort.

Suffering at the hands of others can mean not being able to refuse to do a favor for a friend or constantly enduring contempt and humiliation at work. There are different levels of passivity and various degrees of discomfort, but the dynamics of passive behavior remain the same.

Passive behavior is the result of mistaken self-concepts concerning oneself and others. Once the mental patterns leading to passivity and the structure of passive behavior are identified, it's possible to change oneself and eliminate the discomfort.

Passive behaviors include:

1. Enduring others

2. Inability to openly express one's opinions

3. Difficulty in making decisions

4. Believing others are better than oneself

5. Fearing the judgment of others

6. Depending on the approval of others

7. Inability to refuse

8. Acting according to others' will (submission)

9. Inability to start from others' operational level

These internal behaviors and behavior styles lead the individual to a high sense of frustration.

It often happens that the passive person, after accumulating excessive frustration, "explodes" and exhibits aggressive behaviors toward those who make them suffer. By acting in this way, they are either attacked in return or end the relationship. However, by "exploding," they subsequently increase their inner discomfort and develop feelings of guilt, regretting it, and returning to their habitual passive stance.

This dynamic resembles a pressure cooker accumulating pressure until it reaches saturation, after which it releases excessive steam through the valve.

Constantly enduring others and feeling frustrated leads the individual to feel powerless and create a negative self-image. As a result, they tend to isolate themselves more and more.

The inability to make their own decisions and the dependence on the judgment of others often leads passive individuals to choose aggressive people as "friends" on whom they can rely.